What a weekend. And while my poor writers soul wants to just express pages and pages, it's just not likely going to happen. I haz a tired.
So, where I last left things on the blog, I was beginning to get a little worried about whether or not Edan was actually going to make it. I still hadn't heard from him and as Monday rolled to Wednesday and the countdown began-countdown's always begin on Wednesday, don't you know?-the worry started billowing up into a huge storm. I did hear from him on Thursday, he said that he would get back to me after class about the event. No response and the storm got worse.
It was this lack of communication that had been an issue in our past-or so I thought. What was really going on was Edan was exceptionally busy and my perfectly laid plans were going awry. The latter part was what was actually driving this storm.
Echos from a past, people are vicious and hurtful and will do whatever they can to take advantage of you. Of course he doesn't want to go (never mind that I saw him double check his schedule and he gave me money for his ticket.) because he's not really submissive, he doesn't have any actual desire, he just wants to fuck me because he won't submit perfectly to my plans.
My plans. I realized that I was putting my plans above the circumstances in Edan's life that were preventing him from contacting me, that I was, unwarrantedly, imposing the labels of being flakey, fickled and downright rude.
But Edan has never been rude. He has always been as prompt as possible given someone who works full time, is working on his final courses for his bachelor degree in accounting, is very committed to being there for his family and friends who have been around much longer than I have.
My plans were unraveling and instead of being mature and recognizing that his precedents of the past should speak so much more than this momentary lack of contact, I was slowly getting my noose ready to hang him.
So I calmed the fuck down, and re-told myself that I had planned to go to this event anyway. I had planned to have a really good time without him. Remember? I thought I had safely deleted the message before he read it so he wouldn't have gone if that had actually happened.
I called him, 3 hours before I had to pick him up from his house to go to the event and asked him to let me know, but I wasn't upset at all if he had to cancel.
He immediately called back, apologizing profusely and said that a coworker had quit that week at his job and he had to cover his shifts and between that and school, he had been so distracted and he wouldn't be able to go to the movie, but he wanted to see if he could still go to the after party.
While, admittedly, I hadn't completely let go of the clouds hanging over my hopes for the weekend, those words he spoke made them vanish. His lack of communication explained, his text on Thursday telling me he would get back to me because his situation wasn't as simple as yes he could go or no he couldn't. Everything made sense.
I checked and yes, he could just attend the after party and so he rushed as fast as he could and about an hour after the movie, he arrived to the dungeon.
And I was sweaty, nervous mess, but he showed up. And he looked dashing! He was wearing the same shirt he wore for our "first date" to the park, dark pants and boat shoes. He's so cute. :)
We spent the evening walking around the dungeon together, I loved watching his face when we first entered the play room of the dungeon, his eyes just scanning around at all the different pieces of equipment in that mixture of fascination and curiosity that's tinged with little fear. We talked with other people and he asked me questions about what was going on here or there and what. We watched Mike flog a girl with the electric floggers and he even got to feel them too!
Then a little later on in the evening, we found ourselves in one of the rooms with a bed that looked much like this one:
He started inspecting it and we start trying our hands in it and then he tries his head and we end up where he is standing at the foot of the bed, his hands held by the stocks and I was on the bed. The moment stilled and suddenly the realization that he and I-both of us who had been gently flirting with each other all night-were alone in a room and suddenly our feelings bubbled up. He looked up into my eyes and I reached out and stroked his cheek and his eyes closed softly and I felt him move with my fingers. He licked his lips and smiled softly as his eyes opened and he realized I was still staring at him.
I couldn't stand it anymore. I wrapped my arms around his neck and held him close. I scratched lightly at his neck and shoulders and I felt his heart quicken and he would press himself into my fingers. I scratched a little harder and he whispered out an inaudible moan-I felt it more than heard it.
I pressed harder, running my nails against those long muscles connecting to his shoulders. His heart pounded in his chest and in mine too, I kissed his forehead, his cheek....and then I kissed his neck. I felt him go breathless and gasping for air. I felt his skin beg for it under my lips. I kissed him again, my mouth more open and then my teeth found his skin.
I gripped him firmly, in my favorite spot to bite him and made him melt. He moaned and gasped. I felt his hands clench from his muscles as he strained against the stocks. I held him for a moment and then my brain went:
WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING BITING HIM!? THIS WAS NOT NEGOTIATED! YOU'RE SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE FOOT YOU DAMN PERVERT!!
I pulled away, breathless and shaking and I pressed my forehead against his. He was still recovering from the moment as well and another stillness washed over us. Suddenly I was back at the table, sitting there with him-our first time meeting face to face-with my arms around his shoulders. Moments before I had placed what was simply suppose to be a token of affection and something to hold the place till I could properly make his collar, had become his collar. And then too, my forehead was pressed against his. Inching, agonizingly closer.
When his lips touched to mine...I shook. The moist warmth of his lips, the graze of his breath against my skin, I felt each individual crease along his lower lip on mine. I could smell his cologne, his skin, his hair and his breath. I parted my lips and un doux baiser devint une faim et une a la soif de l'autre. Still shaking I went back and forth between biting him and kissing him.
"I need to sit down, my legs are weak." he whispered at me as I broke from his lips. I undid the stocks and he crawled up onto the bed with me, using my lap as a pillow. I slowly stroked his cheek and kissed his forehead. Whenever my had would run down his side, I felt that old familiar arcing of his back as the sensation sent shivers down his body. Somehow, I had it in my head not to press to continue. He was in subspace and I knew he wasn't expecting to be, so I just lay there until he came back up.
He sat up and my turn to lay down, we talked and for all my wordsmithing I can do with my fingers, I'm craptastic with my mouth.
But we both were on the same page. This didn't mean he was instantly collared and mine, and our feelings are okay.
At that time, it was a little past our time to go, Mike was waiting patiently for us, and I told him that I would quickly walk Edan out and then come back to get him so we could leave.
Yeah, "quick"...
At his car.....I attacked him. Our kisses weren't the gentle soft spoken tenets of our tender feelings towards each other. He pulled at me as I dug my nails in his back. I pulled his hair and clenched down on his shoulders with my teeth. He moaned and whimpered in my ear and I felt his desperate desire-the same desire that feeds me-start to surface. But time, as it likes to do, keeps moving and you can pretend all you want that you're not aware of it for only so long. This moment coincided as he ran his fingers down my cheeks and my neck to my collarbone. When he presses his lips against it, I fall apart and since it had been so long since I felt his touch, his fingers were not a bad substitute so I pulled away.
We said our goodbyes, and just like that first time we met and we said our goodbyes and I started to walk away but who are we kidding here? This is me! I had to have one last hug, one last kiss.
I grabbed his hips and dug my fingers into them, he pulled at me, his lips found mine out of desperation and he pulled me closer.
"Gooooo..." He begged, painfully had he gripped me close. Now wasn't the time or the moment for anything more and I can never deny him when he begs. One last final kiss-a sweet peck to seal it all and one last heartfelt hug.
None of this would have happened had I been upset with him because of not following my perfectly laid plan. I would have gotten mad and canceled his date and returned his money and never had anything to do with him again. That was the mantra of the old perspective. Could he have tried a little harder to be in contact-sure. But I could have made it into a big deal or given him the same understanding he would have given me if the situation was reversed.
Life is really about the perspective we choose to have.in all it's parts, interactions and moments. As they say, there is his story, her story and the truth. Empathy is the path to truth and known truths feed empathy. Dash on a little grace and we get to feel how good our life really is.
Happy day. :)